So I've been dancing around this idea/topic for a while. It's hard to talk about in this community when so much of our relationships/photos/income depend on how we look and how far we've come. Before/after photos come with the territory and goodness knows, they're everywhere. I've even posted them before. But not any more. Why? Several reasons.
- Do I really want my body to be all over the Internet? Not so much. Not really. In my challenge groups and in media I can control? Maybe.
- I saw this on my Instagram the other day and it absolutely broke my heart. I am so so familiar with that feeling of looking at other people and thinking "I'll never be there" or "I can never do that". You can do it. You can take responsibility for yourself and figure out what feels good to you and go for it. But do you know what won't work? Crash dieting. Restricting. Binging. All of these things that we've been trained to think "if I do insert fad diet here I will look like ________". My only goal ever is to encourage health in other people, to share this amazing lifestyle that has changed the entire way I view my body and food and the mirror and...everything else, basically.
- There are tons of transformations already out there. I'll even post some links at the bottom of my favorite people sharing their story and, yes, their before and afters--and I will cheer them on the entire time. Their results are what got me here in the first place, after all. And I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing (I'll even admit that they can be hugely motivating!)--but I won't be participating.
What will I be doing?
I will be living my life.
I'm not saying I'll never post a photo of myself in a bikini or doing a push up. I'm not saying I'll never flex in the mirror because holy biceps (the 21DFX results are too real, y'all, and I'm kind of really proud of it). And you'll definitely still be getting all the sweaty selfies (along with gratuitous pictures of my lunch).
My body is my body and I am not ashamed of it.
But the last thing I want to do is make others feel like they are too much or too little--like they are not good enough. I never want to encourage comparison by myself or by others.
I've struggled with this for a while, had several conversations about it, gone back and forth over and over again, read articles, and done some real soul searching. What are your thoughts? I'd love to hear them.
Before and Afters:
Brittany: 21 Day Fix
Katie: her story
Shamira: 21 Day Fix